Brenda Schinke

Simple quotes take up so little space yet they say so much.

One of Carl Jung’s quotes “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Another way I have heard this said is “When you point a finger at someone your other three fingers are pointing back at you.”

I have found the statements above to be frustrating albeit true. If I have upset with someone (I am now pointing a finger) and I look at what the upset is and how I played a role in the upset I see (three fingers pointing back at me) that my real upset is not with them but with myself. Usually, I find I could have done something different; said/and or not said something; or I had an unexpected expectation from that individual. What I mean by the last statement is I expected them to say or perform in a certain way; however, I never had that communication with them.

The great thing about this is that I have minimized my upset by being accountable for the situation.

1)    Think of a time (either current or past) where you have been in upset with someone.
2)    What did you believe they did to cause your upset?
3)    What will you do differently in the future?
4)    How do you feel differently about the situation?

Until Next Time,
Brenda

Every New Years Eve our family creates treasure maps. We gather and I allow myself to be comfortable with the mess for a period of two to four days depending on how long we as a family are together. This is such a wonderful process and any age can participate. We had our granddaughter do her first one before she was two. 

As I look back on my treasure map I am amazed at how many of my goals were accomplished. I believe the reason for those successes was consistently having this board in front of me. I had it as a screen saver; under acrylic on my desk and also in smaller sections in my day planner. Although I didn’t consciously look at it daily, unconsciously my brain was always scanning and registering. Tony Robbins always says what you focus on you can achieve. I have kept all of my vision boards just to look back and see how powerful my brain and intent really was and continues to be a huge part of my success.

I will continue the annual treasure mapping with my family and now I create one for my computer through http://www.visualizeyourgoals.com/cgi-bin/t.cgi?a=478237.  I had such fun creating this one because I didn’t need to be creative.  The selection of pictures; words and affirmations made creating this so much fun.  Music and your own pictures can also be downloaded and I am thrilled with the results so much that I changed my screen saver to come on every ten minutes.  Take a look at http://www.visualizeyourgoals.com/cgi-bin/t.cgi?a=478237

Until Next Time,
Brenda

All of us are constantly striving to become beautiful people. We want to change ourselves, transform ourselves, become perfect in every way. We don’t want to be angry, we don’t want to be judgmental, we don’t want to be jealous, we don’t want to compare, we don’t want to be dishonest; we want to become this beautiful person. And all of us carry within us the image of this beautiful person. The image painted to us by our religion, by our scriptures, by our spiritual tradition, by our society, by our parents.

What is this image? The image of the person, who is never angry, who is never anxious, who is never afraid, who is sweet, full of love, generous, non-judgmental, non-jealous, etc … and constantly you are trying to become this person. You read a book and see you can become this person. You go to a temple, mosque, church, a synagogue and see if you can become this person or you attend lectures like this, seminars like this, hoping you would become this person.

There is constantly a war, a battle of conflict happening within, a conflict between what you are and what you should be like, your present state and the beautiful person you should be, and that is why we constantly find ourselves evaluating every thing into two. Evaluating our thoughts, our speech, our actions, like a referee, saying this is good, this is bad, this should be there, this should not be there. You feel guilty, and then you do all things trying to feel better. We waste so much of our time, our energy and our life, just trying not to feel guilty. And you hope that one day you would become this beautiful person.

1.    Are you aware of when your mind is judging your or someone else’s behavior?

2.    What can you say that will allow you to be ok with you or someone else?

3.    Why would it be important to add non-judgment to your life?

Until next time,
Brenda

Here’s a great reminder from www.kabbalah.com.

The number one statement we need to understand this week is, we are not our bodies - we are only our soul.

What’s the body here for, you ask? It’s the car on the road trip of life. It’s the vehicle that allows us to do good actions in the world and to be a conduit for revealing positive energy.

The body is a temporary means to an end. I think all of us have had those middle-of-the-night epiphanies, where we realize the depth of this statement. But it’s hard to keep in our minds, and we all fall into caring what people think about us — good or bad — and we obsess over our reflection in the mirror.

The Baal Shem Tov, a Kabbalist who lived and taught in the 18th century, reminded his students to always feel they are only soul. Yes, the body is a temple, and it’s important to care for and respect it. But again, we have to reclaim our territory and care of our soul.

How? Well, for starters, the soul needs to be fed. What does our soul eat? Energy, of course. The energy feeding our soul comes from the good actions we do on a daily basis. The number one way to have a soul that is harmonious, open and well-fed is to systematically look for people that need help and do what we can to meet their needs.

Another tip for caring for our soul comes first thing in the morning. The Kabbalists recommend waking up each day roaring like a lion. The seed for our entire day begins in the morning. In fact, if we find we’ve been upside down and in a bad mood all day, it’s likely it began in the morning.

But if we change our consciousness, knowing something great is going to happen, excited about the unexpected magic, intending that this day will be the best day ever, we’ll be shocked to see how many incredible things will happen to us. When we wake up energized and ready to go for it, we will be in tune with our soul.

This week, practice waking up each day like a lion. Really put your soul forward from the beginning of the day. And notice the ongoing, non-stop demands of your body. Redirect these desires by looking for ways to share love, time and effort with people. You never know when the Light is going to put someone in your path whose day — or life - you can save.

Pay attention to the yearnings of your soul. It’s the only way to win this race.

1. Remember how you woke up the last few days. 
2. Did you set an intention?
3. How will you wake up differently tomorrow?

Until next time,
Brenda

One of my favorite occupations is life coaching. As a life coach, I love being the raving fan on the sidelines in my client’s game of life.  I get to be their number one supporter, sometimes even before they believe they can achieve their goals.  

Brainstorming with the client in defining their outcome, setting smart goals and creating an action plan is a sure way to get them excited, and also to hold them accountable to their commitments.

Coaching clients requires great listening skills. Sometimes what the client doesn’t say is even more important than what they are telling you. Clients sometimes get confused and think coaching is a problem solving center. They just want you to help them fix what is not working. This can produce attainable results but not sustainable results. If the client does not know the “why” behind his result they may fizzle out before the result is obtained. Finding the “why” will prevent the client from struggling and not reaching their goals.

The beauty of clients consistently achieving or exceeding their goals through coaching is that there is no need for advertising. I work only through referrals and take a limited number of clients so that I can continue to enjoy my chosen occupation.

I invite you to think about the following questions:

1.    In what area of your life do you produce consistent outstanding results?

2.    How do you utilize this in your personal or professional life?

3.    How will you make this something you get to enjoy on a regular basis?

Until next time,
Brenda

Doris, Brenda and Janiene

My friend, Doris, contracted a flesh eating bacteria due after being bit by a spider while doing a walking pilgrimage in Spain.

Doris underwent two emergency surgeries and spent four days in ICU before being air-lifted back to Vienna for another emergency surgery. She will spend a minimum of two more weeks in the hospital to clear the bacteria and then begin reconstructive surgery.

Doris continues to improve on a daily basis.  It helps to have people around her or calling her as she needs to keep her focus going in the right direction to continue the healing process. 

She has been sent a variety of healing juices, organic greens,  and fruit and veggie capsules. I believe oils are coming her way so as you can see there is no reason at all to expect anything less than a full recovery.

Doris and Pa

Most importantly, the power of prayer from around the continent, Reikki, and the blessings from the Oneness movement continue to be intentionally focused around her. 

Prior to her third emergency surgery she contacted our friend, Gerry, and informed him of her situation (up to that point no one was aware of her situation). We have figured in less than 9 hours from the call her condition started to show signs of improvement. It just goes to prove there is power in numbers.

When we ask for help we give people an opportunity to feel needed, to share their love, and to be a part of someone’s miracle.

1. How many past situations could you have asked for help?

2. How could it have served those you requested help from?

3. What situations are you currently dealing with alone where you might ask for help?

Until next time,
Brenda

There is so much to share this month.  I am a Main Room Manager for Anthony Robbins (www.anthonyrobbins.com)  I have been on a whirlwind of travel which started mid-March in Fiji and from there went to Australia and then on to Dubai.  My outcome was to be an amazing team player, connect with individuals and learn something new while maintaining optimal health. 

March: Fiji was the Oneness Blessing (http://www.onenessuniversity.org)
April:  Date With Destiny (http://www.anthonyrobbins.com)
April:  Platinum PartnerTrip, Dubai  (http://www.anthonyrobbins.com)

I have seen so many countries in such a short time frame and one thing is constant.  People, no matter what country, love to connect and feel important.  I decided no matter how brief an encounter I had with a human being I would be attentive and present with them.  Being present includes active listening, open communication, and having a genuine interest in the individual with no agenda.  Just knowing what my outcome was prior to starting my travels allowed me to achieve my outcome while maintaining my optimal health. 

However, when all is said and done I agree with Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz, there’s no place like home!

1.  How present are you when interacting with individuals?

2.  What refinements will you make to the current way you meet new people?

3.  How will this enhance your relationships?

Until next time,
Brenda

My friend was commenting over lunch about being in such a dilemma.  Crazy things have been happening to her lately and finally it came to a head.  People she thought were professional business associates were just using and abusing her good nature.  As we talked about the situations she said it doesn’t matter, it’s March 4th.  I said what does that mean.  She said don’t you see the significance.  March FORTH.  How great is it that she has chosen to move forward instead of doing the poor me.

Together we created a plan of action.  The first thing she did was to grab a notebook and jot down EVERYTHING that she needed to do.  Second, we prioritized; scheduled and set up a plan of action, since she was focused on marching forward and the things she needed to do in order to make it happen. 

1.  What is one thing in my life that I choose to move forward on?

2.  What is my plan of action and when will I create it by?

3.  How will I celebrate my decision to move forward?

Until next time,
Brenda

Oh February; it’s one of my most favorite months.  It’s full of love, hearts, prezzies, candlelit dinners, flowers and much, much more.  For me, Valentine’s Day is about receiving and sharing love too.

Wikipedia describes Valentine’s Day or Saint Valentine’s Day as the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other by sending Valentine’s cards, presenting flowers, or offering confectionery.

This year I decided to send love.  I have a friend whose husband died unexpectedly a few years ago leaving her with two very young twin girls.  We chat from time to time and always pick up right where we left off.  She is definitely one of my “soul sisters”.   So I sent her and each of the girls a bouquet of flowers and teddy bears!  It made them feel great to be unexpectedly remembered and it made me feel great as well.

Decide today to make someone feel special.  It doesn’t have to be the love month; it can be any day.  It will make your day as well as theirs. 

1.  Who will I choose to surprise with love?

2.  What will I do (send a card; flowers; e-mail; phone message)?

3.  When will I complete this by?

Until next time,
Brenda

P.S. Send Organic Flowers with Organic Bouquet